Stop It with the Gossip-How to Avoid Gossiping
You know cave women grunted at each other judging how their neighbor picked berries or gathered food for their families. Even today, we just can’t help it. We see something, like how Carrie was flirting with Brandon, and the mouth diarrhea just starts. Gossiping is fun when it’s just your best girlfriends but it can quickly snowball into words that can seriously hurt someone, you or your family. When you stop gossiping is when you start focusing on yourself. What does this mean? It means making being a PowerB!tch your goal and reaching it. Here’s how to avoid gossiping and take over the world:
Karma: What Goes Around, Comes Around
Justin Timberlake sang it best, and we love him for writing such an insightful song, so why not put it into action? After fooling around on instagram for a few minutes after waking up, start the day by remembering karma. Remind yourself you don’t need the negative energy of gossip. Can you remember the last time you said something or overheard something without knowing if it was true or not. Did you share something just because it was fun to talk about it but it had nothing to do with you? Did it come back to bite you in the butt? That’s karma. You get what you put in, so let’s just focus on giving the world daisies and unicorns (and meaning it) and getting back rainbows and marshmallows.
Whether you’re sporting your new pumps or your gym shoes, do the right thing and use them to step away from all the gossipmongers. The second you sense the gossiping start to take flight, just walk away. Gossip means negative energy and that probably means a day with less smiles, laughs and one with more speculation. I mean, who cares what Sheryl told her mom about what happened to Jason at school? Does it involve you? No? Just step away and do something that makes you happy.
Cover Your Tracks
Oops. You did it again. (Hi, Brittany!) You slipped up and gossiped. It’s ok, we all relapse. Whether it’s eating chocolate when we swore the bite before the last would be our last or being considerate of others. We’ve been there, no big deal. But now, you need to own up to it. “I should’ve have said that, it’s not my place and I don’t know that for sure,” is a powerful sentence that can help you get back on track to living a gossip-free life.
That sentence isn’t a crutch, though! Admitting to others is one thing, but admitting to yourself is a completely different source of self-power. When you recognize that what you did probably wasn’t the best way to earn a gold star, you’ll realize you’re above it! Just another way to take over the world. You’re welcome.
A Diamond in the Rough
…doesn’t need to be found. If you’re holding on to a gold mine of information and share it with a friend you trust enough to keep it, be sure to not say these magical words, “Don’t tell anyone but…” When you give away how valuable your information is, the harder it is for someone to not spill the beans! In this case, don’t spread the wealth. Believe me, not everyone needs to know (really). Immerse yourself in something else and you’ll lose the need to share.
So let’s just slow our roll, get it together, and take a few seconds to think before we speak. Gossiping can be avoided and stopping it may even be the first step to stop bullying. Empower yourself by empowering others, not putting them down. How do you avoid gossiping? What would you rather do than gossip? What are your tips on how to be the person you want to be?