How to Avoid the Rumor Mill, When You’re the One on the Mill
So your friend Andrea heard from a girl in class that some other girl at school…
It all starts the same way and it seems like fun and games and harmless until you find out the gossip is about you. Ouch. You know it’s not the truth but the gossip won’t stop, and it seems like it’s something new or different every other day. Don’t get caught up in the whirlwind of the gossip world. Enjoy it where it belongs, on Gossip Girl, and not in real life. Here’s how to avoid it all together, especially when the rumor is about you.
Keep It Together
Been there, done that. Act cool, as if nothing that’s been said is earth shattering. What I mean is, stifle your reaction to join the gossip. Try not to lash back out with more gossip on the gossiper or bullying them. The ball is in your court and you have the power to deflate it. So go ahead PowerB!tch, walk away a winner by crushing that ball to the ground and ending the game.
It’s Not Me, It’s You
I know, it’s hard to not fight back. Remember though, it’s not about you. It’s about the gossiper’s insecurities and boredom. While you’re off trying to be a boss, they’re trying to kill time and take over your mental space by wasting their day with mindless gossip. Ain’t nobody got time for that.
Squash it with Truth
Set the record straight, but do it in person. You know the truth, so say it once and once only. There’s no need to repeat something as powerful as the truth, which should spread like wildfire, and hopefully not in a gossipy way.
When you do spread the truth, DO NOT do it on social media. Doing it in person gives it more credibility. It decreases the chances of people jumping on the, “I’m anonymous” bandwagon and commenting on your post to add fuel to the gossip fire. When you say it in person, you, your friends and all those who matter will know it’s credible and the truth. They can have your back if someone comes up to one of your good friends and questions your intentions. This is where the chain reaction starts and the gossip begins to wither away. You’re over it, and soon everyone else will be over it too.
Same Stuff, Different Day
Handling gossip is like playing Candy Crush. As soon as you get rid of one, another takes its place. Unlike venturing through Candy Land, gossip can be harmful and tomorrow, it will be something new. The best way to handle new gossip is to just let it go, ignore it and let it die a miserable death. Trash talkers don’t see the same point of view you see from atop the rumor mill. You know the truth and that’s all that matters for you to take care of business, so get it girl. Help gossipers get their shit together by simply ignoring them and not giving them your precious time of day. The sooner you ignore a rumor, the sooner it runs out of steam and just goes away.
There are so many ways to come out of something like gossip feeling stronger than ever. Learn how to be a PowerB!tch and become the boss lady you always knew you could be. How do you avoid gossip, especially when it’s about you?